You Can't Go Back
Within a year, we wouldn't even look like that, and the smiles would be more forced. Another year and a half, and our life plans would be rewritten, our bank account would be empty, and our faith would look different.
As much as I love to recall the days of that photograph, I'm reminded of a fundamental truth in life: you can't go back. We all know this, and we're all in denial.
On Easter morning two years ago, our rector pointed out that we Americans (with our short but intense history) have invented a curious way of dealing with the inevitable loss that comes with the passage of time. We call it "nostalgia." When it merely leads to horribly-dated music, clothes, or even architecture, the effect is usually benign. But it doesn't stop there.
One commentator observed that the goal of the Religious Right (particularly in the 1980s and 1990s) was effectively a restoration of the "lost paradise" of the 1950s. He meant that they were not exactly radical, and most Americans would agree that the Fifties were pretty good. (Never mind the harsh realities of racial segregation and backyard bomb shelters). But aside from the quixotic nature of this goal, and its rose-colored view of the past, going back to the Fifties would just mean going through the Sixties again, and I'm not even sure if hippies would want that.
That's merely one example. Everyone longs for simpler times, or for the glory days. The Republicans want Reagan back, the Democrats want JFK. The Tea Party wants the 1800s back (or maybe 1776). The Amish want it to be 1693, while some Roman Catholics wish it were before 1517 (when Luther nailed his 95 theses to the church door in Wittenberg) or perhaps before 1957 (when The Pill was introduced). On a visit to Egypt, our guide told us, "we have to be proud of our past [i.e. the pyramids] because there is nothing to be proud of today." Greeks take pride in Aristotle, Socrates, and St. Paul's physician (Luke) as their economy becomes the bane of the EU and the laughingstock of the rest of the world. We all, but especially Jews, wish we could go back to the 1930s and stop Hitler instead of appeasing him - just as I wish I could go back to a particular January day and stay home from work instead of frantically rushing through Bombay traffic to meet The Lady at a hospital.
But we can't go back - not in history, and not in life. It can be a hard truth to accept, but an even worse one to ignore. And ultimately, it is good news indeed.
The truth is, when that picture was taken we still didn't know each other that well. Our faith was vibrant, but had been only mildly tested. Our goals were good, but not necessarily great. Our hearts were genuine, but much smaller. Our view of life and of the world was fairly clear, but narrow. And although the future today looks almost as murky as it did then, looking back I know that we could never have imagined either the pain we would endure, or the beauty that would result.
Now, with our multiracial family and our amazingly supportive church, and having experienced redemption in such concrete ways, I'm not sure I want to go back.
Almost every major view of history can find support in the Bible: cyclical ("history repeats itself"), oppressed vs. oppressor (particularly in Amos, Luke, and James), progressive, paradigm shifts (see the Letter to the Hebrews), even existentialism. But Christians ultimately embrace a narrative view, because the Bible begins in a garden but ends in a city, and the King of that city had his finest moment redeeming us from the horrible mess we made. We believe that history is going somewhere, that there is a meta-narrative and that the Author of this story - maddening as it can be - is taking it (and us) somewhere. As much as we mourn the "paradise lost" of the Garden of Eden, our eyes are set on the heavenly city. So when I look at that photograph, although a part of me misses those days, I realize how far God has brought us in 5 years and can only wonder what He will do with us in the next five.